self-improvement
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I cut myself shaving yesterday while I was thinking of something else. It’s an example of why being present is so important. When you’re focused on past problems still you aren’t effective in the present. This leads to new problems, and it’s a negative downward spiral. In contrast, when you’re present and focused on the…
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Treasure is rarely found on the surface. It’s not easy to get to. Usually you have to dig, and dig deep! That’s where you’ll find your treasure. The character traits you haven’t developed yet. The contribution you didn’t imagine you could produce. The next level of your relationships. It’s a lot of hard work to…
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There are so many things we can learn from our children. They come into the world with natural tendencies. They’re curious. They want to touch and taste everything in sight. They’re committed. If my daughter wants to dig into the shoe bin, I can put her anywhere in the house, she’s going to keep crawling…
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Flow state is when you move fluidly and confidently through your day. Interruptions aren’t able to break through your concentration. You can’t help but smile, even (especially?) if you’re doing something that’s challenging, testing your limits. Cultivating circumstances in which we can enter a flow state is the task. Avoiding distractions and negative influences is…
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The speed at which we make decisions is an important skill to train. Warren Buffett is quoted as calling his business partner Charlie Munger “the best 60 second mind in the world”. Decisive people tend to make for strong leaders. Granted some decisions should be more thought out than others – we calibrate the effort…
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I talk about Extreme Ownership a lot, an excellent book by Navy Seals Jocko Willink and Leif Babin. A thought that I had recently about it is this: extreme ownership expands your awareness of the impact that you can have. We aren’t in control of our lives, but we have agency over many more of…
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When you feel like slowing down, accelerate instead! In the study of habits the concept of triggers and your response to them is important. The first step is identifying triggers that you respond to by initiating a behavior that you want to change. Smoking a cigarette when you get stressed at work, overeating when criticized,…
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Today is my incredible wife and my 2-year wedding anniversary and I feel like the luckiest person in the world. It hasn’t started off as planned, however. Our nine month old daughter woke up throughout the night last night crying, and was fussy this morning. It turned out she had a stiff neck and couldn’t…
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I recently became a father, and I strive to be a great one. I want to teach my kids to be loving, curious, committed and hardworking. I want them to believe fully in themselves, trusting their capabilities while recognizing the need and value of seeking guidance to gain understanding. I want them to feel peace…
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Jim Rohn says “if you will change, it will all change for you”. We get comfortable, familiar in our thought, action, and communication patterns. That’s why most days feel the same. What if you had the ability to design, craft, shape your own life? We do. We can change, and things will change for us.…
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